If You Want a Man to be a Man…Let Him!

An older “gentleman”…dear friend, church member & mentor wanted to thank me for my simple gesture of remembering his birthday with a card by taking me to lunch at

Old Charley's Restaurant.

He INSISTED on picking me up.

 (I offered to just meet him at the restaurant.)

He INSISTED on driving through a torrential rain storm to get me.

 (I offered to cancel because of the rain.)

He INSISTED on picking me up at my front door & escorting me to the car.

He INSISTED on opening my car door for me when we arrived.

(I was preparing to get out on my own, like I always do.)

He INSISTED on holding my umbrella for me to keep me from getting rained on. 

He INSISTED on holding the door open for me, as we entered the restaurant.

He INSISTED on me sitting down first.

He INSISTED on me ordering first.

He INSISTED on paying the check. 

He INSISTED on waiting for me while I went to the restroom.

         (I was prepared to meet him at the car.)

He INSISTED on holding the door open for me as we exited the restaurant.

He INSISTED on holding the door open for me when I got back in his car. 

He INSISTED on driving responsibly. 

He INSISTED on opening my car door for me, as we arrived at my home.

He INSISTED on walking me to my door.

I had seen him do this with his wife of 46 years. I thought it was endearing, but not practical.

I considered him “Old School.”  

I was not accustomed to being “vulnerable” to anyone.

However, why did I find this treatment so “uncalled for and kind of uncomfortable?”

Why, as women, are we now so conditioned to BE STRONG, BE INDEPENDENT, and BE IN CONTROL??

The Big Lesson here:  (As I question myself)

   

    You say you want a MAN to honor & cherish you & treat you like a Queen?

    Well then…You Have Got To Let Him….