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Friday, October 23, 2015

“Put Your Big Girl Panties On…”
…And just deal with it.”

The Urban Dictionary defines Big Girl Panties as:  an expression that is used to say "Grow Up, Move On and Be An Adult."
Linda was crying about Marie and how she was spreading gossip about her. I just told her, "Linda, it's time to put on your big girl panties and deal with it."

The phrase is also stated as: “Put on your Big Boy Briefs/Boxers and deal with it.”

Whenever I hear this phrase, I have an image of a potty-training toddler running through the house with her pull-up diapers on. J

After weeks of training and repetition, she is finally able to successfully “go to the potty” when needed. She is then able to advance to real underwear, which is referred to as “big girl panties.”

Life works this way. We turn age 18, which is considered to be a “legal adult.”  We then discover that it means responsibility, accountability and wise decisions. Some are prepared…many are not.

Life Happens. The Good, the Bad and the Ugly. Births, Disappointments, Successes, Careers,  Illnesses, Adventures, Traditions, Faith, Travel, Growing Older, Death…

Although we may have had a rough start in life, you reach a point that you can no longer blame your parents, your teachers or your circumstances. Eventually, we must take responsibility for our own lives.

The Bible says:
1 Corinthians 13:11 (NKJV):  When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
1 Peter 2:1-4 (NKJV):  2 Therefore, laying aside all malice, all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and all evil speaking, 2 as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word, that you may grow thereby, 3 if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is gracious.
1 Corinthians 3:1-2 (NKJV):  3 And I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual people but as to carnal, as to babes in Christ. 2 I fed you with milk and not with solid food; for until now you were not able to receive it, and even now you are still not able;

Memorable Quotes
“Maturity comes when you stop making excuses and start making changes.”
“Our background and circumstances may have influenced who you are, but we are responsible for who we become.”
 “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.” – E.E. Cummings
“Growing older is mandatory, but growing up is optional.” – Walt Disney
“Your time as a caterpillar has expired. Your Wings Are Ready.”
“It’s not too late to be the person you wanted to grow up to be.”
“You have the power to say…This is not how my story will end.”
“If it’s important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will make an excuse.”
“Life has no remote. Get up and change it yourself.”

It would be wise for each of us to decide what we want our lives to be, ask God for guidance and Make It Happen.

Friday, October 9, 2015

“Eyes Wide Shut”

Although this is the title of the 1999 movie starring Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise, it has relevance to us today.

Many people go through life this way.

Going to and from work and never noticing:
  • The brightness of the sun or the green color of the trees.
  • The innocent smile of a baby.
  • The hidden pain in the eyes of an elderly loved one.

Taking their children to and from school and never noticing:
  • The excitement in their laughs.
  • The unique way they see the world.
  • The disappointment in their eyes.
  • Their subtle cries for attention, affirmation and love.

Dining in a restaurant and not noticing:
  • The stress experienced by the server.
  • The panic in the eyes of the mother next to you to pay her tab.
  • The sadness from the elderly couple in front of you.
  • The cleanliness of the restaurant.
  • The detail by the chef to ensure you have a unique dining experience.

We often are so busy focusing on ourselves that we miss what is right in our face.

"You can’t make someone SEE the truth when they refuse to open their eyes.” – Janette McGowen

This quote came to me as I was in a passionate conversation with a friend regarding a relationship issue. The total denial and refusal to acknowledge strong feelings that still existed were very interesting. The focus continued to be diverted to external factors instead of the obvious, in-your-face truth. No amount of reason or persuasion could help produce the “light bulb moment” of clarity.

In the 1992 movie A Few Good Men, the memorable dialog stated:
Lt. Kaffee (Tom Cruise):  “I want the truth!”
Col. Jessup (Jack Nicholson):  “You can’t handle the truth!”

The Bible says:
John 8:32 (NKJV):  And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
John 14:6 (NKJV):  Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
John 17:17 (NKJV):  Sanctify them by Your truth. Your word is truth.
Ephesians 4:15 (NIV):  Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

Memorable Quotes:
“People don’t want to hear the truth because they don’t want their illusions destroyed.” – Friedrich Nietzche
“Truth may be inconvenient, uncomfortable and perhaps unwanted; however, it is always relevant, necessary, and undeniable.” – Anthony Walker
“We don’t see the world as it is. We see it as we are.” – Anais Nin
“It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.” – Henry David Thoreau
“When you change the way you look at things, the way you look at things change.” – Wayne Dyer
"Vision is the art of seeing the invisible." Jonathan Swift
“I shut my eyes in order to see.” – Paul Gauguin
“The only thing worse than being blind is having SIGHT with no VISION.” – Helen Keller
 “The truth will always be the truth even if no one believes it.”
It may serve us to eliminate life’s distractions and open our eyes by opening our minds and hearts to “what is”.                                                     

Friday, October 2, 2015

“Consistency Over Time”

On his hit TV reality show on the OWN Cable Network, “Deion’s Family Playbook,” Deion Sanders replies to a young man he is mentoring. The young man lives with him, but has fallen back into some old habits of not doing school work, the wrong friends and occasional drugs.

When he apologizes for his behavior, Deion tells him (I paraphrase), “I accept your apology. And I am proud of you for the improvements you have made. But what I need to see is consistency over time.”

Isn’t that we all want to see:
  • In our marriages?
  • In our children’s behavior?
  • With our health?
  • In our friendships?
  • In our jobs?
  • In our churches?

Often, we fail to understand that GOD was…is…and will always be consistent.
We can't grasp the fact that this is exactly what HE is looking for in us.

He wants to see if we TRUST Him…OBEY Him…PRAISE Him… WORSHIP Him…THANK Him…LOVE Him… PRAY to Him… consistently…over time…

The Bible says:
1 Thessalonians 5:17(NKJV):  pray without ceasing,
Revelation 2:10 (NKJV): “… Be faithful until death, and I will give you the crown of life.
2 Timothy 4:7-8 (NKJV): 7 I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. 8 Finally, there is laid up for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will give to me on that Day, and not to me only but also to all who have loved His appearing.
Malachi 3:6 (NKJV): 6 “For I am the Lord, I do not change;…”
1 Corinthians 15:58 (NKJV): 58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.
Galatians 6:9 (NKJV): 9 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.
Hebrews 13:8 (NKJV): 8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.

Memorable Quotes:
“No great thing is created suddenly.”
“A river cuts through a rock not because of its strength but its persistence.”
“Don’t be upset by the results you are not getting by the results you are not getting.”
“Whatever you do inconsistently doesn’t count.” – Dr. David Jones, Jr.
“It’s not what you do every now and then but what you do every day that changes everything.”
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
“We become what we repeatedly do.” – Sean Covey
This should be our goal…in our daily lives and to God…to be consistent over time…