“My
Favorite INSULT…”
One of the most amusing insults I
have ever been given is:
“You
think you are better than everyone…”
In the past I either dismissed this
or went on the defensive by saying, “No, I don’t…”
However, wisdom has taught me to
remain silent and really listen to what is being said. I have learned to craft
a clever, personal reply to this. It is:
“No…first of all…you don’t know my
thoughts because I have never shared them with you. So…this has to reflect YOUR
thoughts about me. And for the record…I don’t think I am better than anyone
else. I may just want better for my life and am willing to work harder for it
than most.”
The Bible guides us:
Matthew
5:11 (NIV): “Blessed are you when people insult
you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of
me.”
1
Corinthians 15:33 (NIV): “Do not
be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
Proverbs
13:20 (NIV): “Walk with the wise and become
wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
Luke
6:27-28 (NIV): “…Love your enemies, do good to
those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat
you.”
Romans
12:17-18 (NIV): “Do not repay anyone evil for evil.
Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as
far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
In an article titled “How to
Determine Why Someone Is Treating You Poorly,” more insight is given toward
this:
Note
how they act around you. Some of
the possible signs might include: gossiping about you to others, ignoring you,
saying hurtful things to you, breaking or stealing your stuff, belittling you,
setting you up to get into trouble for something you didn't do or say, calling
you names, implying that you're not as clever/good-looking/well-connected/valuable,
etc. as them, intimidating you, leaving unfriendly/unkind messages about you on
social networking sites, or breaking promises they swore they'd meet.
Ask
yourself. Why do you need validation from
them? Do you need them so much that you would have to supplicate them to make
yourself better? It’s fine if they don't like you, who cares? Remember you are
being insecure & needy if you care.
Move
on. Remember that there's no point in
dwelling in the past. Get on with your life and activities, surround yourself
by people who aren't mean to you, and focus on what matters to you.
Quotes to Consider:
“What
you say about other people says a lot about YOU.” – unknown
“Listen carefully to how a person speaks about
other people to you. This is how they will speak about you to other people.” – unknown
“People
will always talk about you, especially when they envy you and the life you
live. Let them. You affected their lives, they didn’t affect yours.” – unknown
“You
talk a good game, but I’m watching how you play.” – unknown
“Fact: Haters don’t really hate you. In fact,
they hate themselves because
you are a reflection of what they wish to
be.” - unknown
However, one of the most profound
words of wisdom for me is from Will Smith: “Stop letting people who do so little for
you control so much of your mind, feelings, and emotions.”
The thing that I do know with
certainty is: I am a child of God. HE created me
for a specific purpose. I will live my life in such a way that is pleasing to
HIM, and strive every day to spend eternity with HIM.
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